If your sex life has grown a little stale, you and your partner may try something a little different. And there are a lot of different options out there. But it is perhaps swinging, which is often referred to as “SLS lifestyle,” that intrigues a lot of couples. In this lifestyle, you and your partner agree to swap with other couples, sometimes individually and sometimes as a group. Getting into the lifestyle is perhaps not as easy as you might imagine although the Internet has made the path a little clearer. Be aware, though, that there are definite ground rules, not all of them you may have to know.

A closer look at the rules of swinging

It’s important that you and your partner are on the same page before you choose swinging as your lifestyle. I is perhaps the most important rule of all. We will talk a little more about that, as well as some general rules, below:

1 Create your own set of rules first 

Deciding to swing is something that you and your partner should agree on completely. Once you decide that you are both in, there are some things you need to talk about. The most important discussion is the type of swinging that you want to be involved in. Many couples opt to start out with the soft swing. This means that intimacy, touching, and oral sex are on the table, while full penetration is not. The soft swing is a good way to find out if you can truly handle your partner being with someone else. Eventually, you may decide to go with the hard swing. But again, a set of ground rules needs to be in place for both of you.

2 Always be respectful

When you get into the lifestyle, you may choose to frequent clubs or private parties where other swingers will be in attendance. You are potentially going to meet a lot of different people, not all of whom you will be attracted to. If one of those couples approaches you with an offer to swing, you must always be respectful even if you are absolutely not interested. This brings us nicely to the next rule.

3 It is always okay to say “No”

You do not need to get into a whole story about why you are saying no. But you must make sure that you politely decline offers that do not interest you. Part of the ground rules you set with your partner may come into play here. One of you may be up for the swap while the other is not. In those cases, you need to be in total agreement or else the swap does not take place.

4 Never leave a partner behind

If you are at a club or a private swingers party, it’s important that you never leave your partner behind. You need to think of singing as a team sport that you and your partner both play a role in. Many clubs are set up so that you can have sex on the premises, so while you may both separate to have your fun with another partner, you should both meet up again afterwards and leave the club together. If you have decided that sharing your experience with one another is part of the fun, use that to invigorate your sex life as a couple. You may both be ready to indulge in one another after talking about your individual experiences.

5 Clean up first 

Proper hygiene is an absolute must if you are going to a swinger’s event with the intent on taking part in the action. Make sure that you shower and groom before you head out. Put on some perfume or cologne and take time to dress for the part. People are not likely to be attracted to you if you show up looking scruffy and not appearing to be as clean as you can be. Males should also ensure that they have adequate protection, although many clubs will provide condoms for the men.

6 Have fun

Sure, you are probably going to be nervous the first time that you attend a club or private swinger’s party, but that is perfectly natural. The people you meet are going to know exactly how you feel and will do all that they can to put you at ease. Remember, you don’t need to do anything on your first few visits. And you may use those occasions as a chance to see if the lifestyle is suitable for you as swinger couples.